Ask Death about Life?(Real Advice Column)

[deathroseaiko]

just tell them what their losing. sometimes people just want to replace their emotional pain with physical pain.

i'm glad that you try but sometiems if you try hard enough and its still not working, i suggest you tell someone who can help them. now i know if you tell someone else, your friends would be upset and think you've betrayed them, but tell them that if they contuine to cut themselves, they are losing their future.

they are losing their dreams, their hope, and themselves.

it's not fun it's dangerous. now i am death yes and sucidial yes, but cutting yourself is not going to solve anything.

[Chibi-sitter]

You all need a big hug from Chibi. Me.
*group hug*

My parents have divorced recently, my mum lives up north, so does my dad but they're seperated.
I'm glad the fights have stopped. I don't live with either but I miss my sisters (even though they can be lil pests) alot.
I stayed behind because I hate resetteling in new school, new state its really hard for me to do that.
And it couldn't of come up in a worst time, I'm in year 12 and I don't need added stress to the stress I already have with my HSC.
So I chose education over family.
I see them on the holidays and call, chat and email them. Sometimes they come down on a weekend.
School :-? sometimes makes me wonder was it worth it.
But the distance has made me love them more. (our emails are full with kissing & hugging emoticons )
What do you think Death?

[deathroseaiko]

The distance has made you love them more. That's a plus. Because sometimes the more distance you have, you love them more. Like if you lose one of them, you really just keep thinking about them and finding out more things about them.

It's worth picking education over family. You had reasons, though you may not think they're the best. It was worth it because you are picking education where you are going to learn the same things to build your future and you still see them.

Though you feel like it's a lost , it's not. Because you just want to build your furture and it just happened that you had to chose it over your family. Just never think that you lost them because the choice you made is worth it. hoped i helped Chibi.

and i know it's werid to ask so lively questions of life to DEATH! hehehe, hence the title of my advice column.

[Cowboy_Bebop_Fanatic]

Okay. Time for reassurance. No one has truly calmed my nerve about this subject so I am going to see what you have to say deathroseaiko. Back when I was younger I had a girlfriend, to be honest she's the only I've had, anyway her cousin, Scott, my girlfriend, Jean, and myself were extremely close friends. We were a pack. However, one day Scott, who was four years older than me, had an arguement with me. He stormed out of my house, jumped in his car, and started to drive off. He was slowly turning at the intercetion and was immediately blind-sided by a drunk driver in a semi. He was instantly killed right before my eyes. Burdened as I was, a month later, Jean went on a private plane trip of California. However the plane crashed and killed all three passengers. I didn't want herto go but she insisted. I blame myself for these deaths. My memories are laced with these burdens and I have never fully forgiven myself. Hence why I call myself a loser and such. It slowly eases my pain. I have tried atoning for this but it brings me no solace. I've tried forgeting but it only mad things worse. What should I do?

[Chibi-sitter]

hoped i helped Chibi.

It did.
*Another hug*

[deathroseaiko]

First to Cowboy_Bepop_Fanatic:

Never blame yourself for what happens in life unless it's truly your fault. You are upset because you feel that the death of Scott had been caused by your argument and the guilt that arised was when you saw it all happen.

It's not you to blame, the person who was drunk shouldn't have been driving in the first place. Second, Scott, no matter how angry he was, couldn't see anything being blinded by his rage.

That's not your fault. Emotions can blind you from things. You may think it's your fault because you think Scott would've never been in the accident if you hadn't been an agrument. You can't control life, fate, destiny, or death. You just have to face it and live it.

And the death of Jean isn't your fault neither. In fact nothing is to blame becasue it's fate and death. You are in control of neither.

You call yourself a loser to ease the pain. Sometimes it works but running away gives you more issues to deal with. Try to just live it and face it. Visit the grave and ask for forgivness, it may seem silly but it works.

You really never can take the blame for life. Life throws a lot of things your way to knock you out of it, always fight it because that's your way of being strong.

Don't forget both of them, relive or re visit memories. You may feel regret and guilt from time to time after you've moved on but that's natural.

Another way to ease the guilt is like I said, face up to it. Find out why you really feel guilty which I think I've pointed out already than deal with it from there.

Did I help?



And to Chibi-Sitter:

Your welcome. This is an advice column you know. *hug*

[Cowboy_Bebop_Fanatic]

I will do what I can. Thank you deathroseaiko. I don't know if it's just the void left by their deaths but things have never calmed for me. I haven't really done anything on the dating field since then. Except for ask someone to prom but that busted. And as of lately I have becoming extremely close friends with other individuals, but not of the extent of friendship I had with Scott. I do visit their graves on their birthdays and holidays. Least you have given me advice and some reassurance. Everyone else, even my family, just left my emotions to the wolves. Once again I would like to say thank you.

[deathroseaiko]

You could always date around, you should never stop living just because of guilt. And you should never stop growing up or moving on just because of it. I suggest you try to go back into the dating field!

And your welcome, I'm very glad to help. And I'm happy to have to come to me for reassurance. :o

[Calla Lily]

Hey, girl! I think you're doing a great job with your advice column, deathrose.

But this is more of an opinion than anything else. What do you honestly think about forbidden love? And yes, I am referring to a real-life Shakespeare R&J scenario.

[deathroseaiko]

I think forbidden love is both a sin yet natural.

I mean if you love someone and it's a forbidden love than go for it. However you really are going to have to think about it, deeply!!

I mean if he's a married man or you are, it's tough because the people in his or your life, are going to go through a lot of pain. Some of it, may not even be what they want or deserve. You should always think outside of yourself.

I know that sometimes emotions like love causes you to be blinded but try anyways!

I normally don't get a lot of forbidden love kinda questions but I've had some.

well what happened in the shakespeare's play? i know it's being stupid and immature counting on a really old play kinda thing but those things do tend to happen.

but if it's not going to be anything like the play, i suggest you do the right thing.

i'm not sure if i can tell you what the right thing is or anything, that's something someone always has to find out on their own.

if one of you guys are married and such, i suggest if you really love the other person that you're in this love with, i suggest you try to do divorce but don't forget what you're losing.

i know this is like a bad advice but forbidden love questions are rare for me so i'm not really shaped into that yet too much but i'm very insightful like i've said before and i'm able to tell people things.

hope i helped and i hav high hopes for you.