Ask Heero (A Real Advice Column)

[PinkDelusion]

Sweet_me_beajai, calm down!

I'm sure you're feeling a lot of intense emotions right now, but the best thing to do is just calm down. I find it best in these situations, to just think rationally about what's happened -- and most of all, assume nothing.

Why not just ask him if he still likes you? When I'm not sure about that sort of thing, I just ask. Its really that simple. Blunt can be good sometimes. He sounds like a nice guy to do all that stuff for you, so I should think he'd be nice if you just asked.

In a complex situation like this, making it more simple is the best solution. Keep that in mind, and Good luck!!! ^___^

[sweet_me_beajai]

Pink Delusion:um....i dont think i can just ask him bluntly. i'm not really in these kind of stuff too, and from my limited experience i dont think i've harboured enough courage to ask him about something like that. besides i dont really know how to contact him since he's always the one that calls me at home, and i cant look for it in the directory since we now live in two different coutries....

about what you said White Witch....um...i dont really know how to show him that i like him back without acting 'pushy' so i guess i probably just acted normal (well as normal as i can be in those situations).....

i'm actually feeling a bit better now.....well i try not to think of it.....

[dragon agility]

Hey everybody, I've just read the last ten pages of this column because I've been in Italy for three weeks and haven't touched a computer.... Do you know how hard it is to go without a computer? I'm sure i dreamed about it...! So hi again!

sweet_me_beajai, do you have msn messenger, yahoo messenger or aol messenger because then you can talk from poeple all around the world, and you can find out numbers on the internet. By the way, I'm from england too.

[Lady Casper]

Wow Three weeks in Italy your lucky d.a.

so how were the sites?

[Heero]

Don't forget about ICQ, another messageing program.

What you're feeling is a solid crush. Not love. Love feels similar, but the mutual feeling is more euphoric than a crush. That's the best way I can describe it. Like the Crush is the thirst, and the love is the quincher. It's really hard to discribe.

But as for your problem, he was just looking for a reaction so that if he did ask you out, he wouldn't be rejected and thus, humiliated. It's the most common problem with getting dates.
You have 3 choices now. Put it all in the past and start all over, confront him and tell him how you feel, or continue things just as they were with both of you unsure about eachother.

My advice would be to tell him dry and clear, but I am fully aware of how difficult that is. So now it's 50/50 on your decision to put any hopes of a romantic relationship with him behind you, or continue as if nothing happened.

[Raspberry]

Nice advice Heero

I have a question that bothers me for quite long...

In EW, did you lost some of your weight or just your shoulders got bigger?

And also:

Does Miss Relena's hair grow so fast or she uses some conditioner or something? (I mean that in the end of TV series she has hair to her shoulders and in EW {half year later} she has it already to her hip!)

[Roa_Aoife]

Some people just have fast growing hair. My hair grows like that.

sweet_me_beajai- I speak from experience when I say this: Don't wait too long. Do really like him? If you really care for this boy, quit pussy footing around. A person will only wait so long before they move on. I spent a long time unsure about my current bf, even though I knew I really liked him. I wasted an entire year that we could have been together. By the time we got together, I was already accepted into a college in another state. When I think about all that wasted time, it makes me sad. Look, you tell him and the worst that can happen is he'll be an ass and reject you straight out. Or he'll say he just wants to be friends, . But you can rebound from that. If you do nothing, you will regret it in one way or another, most likely for the rest of your life. Don't make the mistake I did.

And I know it's hard. I myself am not confrontational by nature. When you get a chance talk to him. Next time he calls if you can. And get contact info. Then don't think, just do. If you overthink or second guess yourself, you'll back out. The sooner you get over with, the sooner this angst will be gone. You wil be able to move on with the rest of your life. Whatever you decide to do, don't stay stuck. That is the worst place to be.

[Roa_Aoife]

And Heero, what kind of gun do you prefer?

[sweet_me_beajai]

Hey! Thanks you guys for all the wonderful advices! I really appreciate it.

I?ve thought about it and I decided that I?m just gonna leave it all in the past. Even if I tell him what I really feel, it still won?t work. We?re continents apart and I don?t want my first ever romantic relationship to be that foggy.

You?re right Heero, it probably just a ?solid crush? so I?ll get over it?.well actually it think I am over it. I mean, it?s not like I?m not gonna meet anybody better, right? He?s not the only fish in the sea, and I have the rest of my life to get one.

I think its better this way. It wouldn?t be harder for me, and if he really like me, it also wouldn?t be harder for him. He?ll be happier with someone near. He?ll be happier with her. Besides, I can?t just dwell on it forever. I have my studies to think about, priorities to be prioritize.

Thanks everyone, for all those advices. I think typing out what I really feel made me more in tune with my feelings. It made me see different angles of my ?problem? and made me realize the right thing to do! I couldn?t express how much it really helped! Now that I think about it, I can?t believe I was that hysterical! LOL

[Heero]

You'll definatly get over him if you havn't already. And yes, a lot of people don't realize that setting your eyes on one person doesn't mean that's the only person you'll ever be intrested in ever.

Her hair just grows that way. Always has. And as for my body structure, I have no idea. I wasn't paying attention. Perhaps I was doing a certain kind of exercise, or maybe I hit my second growth spurt at that time.

A 9mm. Easy to conseal and great range/power.