Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 5:59 am
Neotoongirl, i understand your frustration. I have a little sister who has the same unfortunate habits, only her film of choice was honey. A great film admittedly, but after the first dozen times of watching it you do lose a little love for it. It also has music and dancing which means that she sings and dances along to it as well, in the main room of course. Which happens to be situated over the room i spend a lot of time in, literally sounds like elephants jumping up and down. Dust falls on my head, and she still doesn't believe me when i say she can't sing. She also tried to kill me recently by pushing me down the stairs, then denied that she ever touched me two seconds later.
She is also highly of the 'its all about me' mentallity, but at least she is no longer saying that she hates her life and wishes that she were dead. Or that any of us were dead.
But shes my sister. I may not like her all the time, but i didn't kill her, or even swear at her, i dealt. Admittedly its easier now im away from home at uni (is that an option for you to leave home sometime in the near future?) But she seems to be reverting a little to bad habits when i do go home.
Does anyone else in the family feel the way you do? Perhaps a family intervention. Or a out of the way room where your bro could watch his films all he wants. Telling the relevant adult in your household of your feelings might help. Maybe your bro doesn't realise the affect his actions are making on you. Though it might seem, and maybe be true that he currently doesn't care about anyone than himself. It might be that he views this as a game and is enjoying winding you up. In which case not rising to his taunts might help.
Or even asking something as simple as 'why do you hate me?' or 'do you hate me?' might work in getting him to think about his actions. Though, i'll admit its a very long shot. Try some of wicked's or my suggestions out and get back to us. I think her suggestion about the online journal was a great one, and should really work in your situation.
Now, onto my question. I was thinking of asking for a while, and since i don't really have anyone at uni i feel comferable in asking...
Dear Heero, my dad was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago i think. I didn't really ask and information always comes to me last in my family. I just knew he was sick for a while, then i got told he had to have a operation on his throat. A little after this i glanced at my mum's computer while she was typing a email, it said 'hubbys got cancer'.
I've found out since then that he's got cancer in his throat somewhere, i heard it once, it began with a 't'. He also went to chemo for a few months, thou i think thats stopped now. I went home last week for half term. He's still very sick, a nurse comes round to give him morphene. Though i only saw her one day, so im not sure how often she comes round.
I guess, i've considered the fact that he might die. Though i'm a little confused as to my lack of feeling about the idea. My sisters have cried and i think my mum did a couple of times. I haven't cried, though he's a very nice dad. But i've never exactly been the most in tune with my feelings so it doesn't bother me too much.
What does bother me is that when i was back at home, mum told me to spend a lot of time with him because 'hes very ill' and 'just in case'. Does that mean that hes going to die?
Would the doctors know if hes going to die? Is it like on the tv, when a person has cancer and they can give them a percentage as to whether they are going to die or not? And if he's acting more in pain than before, then does that mean that he's getting worse? Or is it like some illnesses and you get worse, then better, then worse then you're ok again?
I don't want to talk to my family about it right now. They get very sad. But any information that you can give me would be appresheated.
She is also highly of the 'its all about me' mentallity, but at least she is no longer saying that she hates her life and wishes that she were dead. Or that any of us were dead.
But shes my sister. I may not like her all the time, but i didn't kill her, or even swear at her, i dealt. Admittedly its easier now im away from home at uni (is that an option for you to leave home sometime in the near future?) But she seems to be reverting a little to bad habits when i do go home.
Does anyone else in the family feel the way you do? Perhaps a family intervention. Or a out of the way room where your bro could watch his films all he wants. Telling the relevant adult in your household of your feelings might help. Maybe your bro doesn't realise the affect his actions are making on you. Though it might seem, and maybe be true that he currently doesn't care about anyone than himself. It might be that he views this as a game and is enjoying winding you up. In which case not rising to his taunts might help.
Or even asking something as simple as 'why do you hate me?' or 'do you hate me?' might work in getting him to think about his actions. Though, i'll admit its a very long shot. Try some of wicked's or my suggestions out and get back to us. I think her suggestion about the online journal was a great one, and should really work in your situation.
Now, onto my question. I was thinking of asking for a while, and since i don't really have anyone at uni i feel comferable in asking...
Dear Heero, my dad was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago i think. I didn't really ask and information always comes to me last in my family. I just knew he was sick for a while, then i got told he had to have a operation on his throat. A little after this i glanced at my mum's computer while she was typing a email, it said 'hubbys got cancer'.
I've found out since then that he's got cancer in his throat somewhere, i heard it once, it began with a 't'. He also went to chemo for a few months, thou i think thats stopped now. I went home last week for half term. He's still very sick, a nurse comes round to give him morphene. Though i only saw her one day, so im not sure how often she comes round.
I guess, i've considered the fact that he might die. Though i'm a little confused as to my lack of feeling about the idea. My sisters have cried and i think my mum did a couple of times. I haven't cried, though he's a very nice dad. But i've never exactly been the most in tune with my feelings so it doesn't bother me too much.
What does bother me is that when i was back at home, mum told me to spend a lot of time with him because 'hes very ill' and 'just in case'. Does that mean that hes going to die?
Would the doctors know if hes going to die? Is it like on the tv, when a person has cancer and they can give them a percentage as to whether they are going to die or not? And if he's acting more in pain than before, then does that mean that he's getting worse? Or is it like some illnesses and you get worse, then better, then worse then you're ok again?
I don't want to talk to my family about it right now. They get very sad. But any information that you can give me would be appresheated.
...I'm proud to say that I'm good at this when it comes to my brother. LOL...The poor thing even cried when I gave him a 'pep talk' about how much I care for him despite all the teasing and whatnot!....When I asked him why he's crying, he was like...."I didn't know you cared for me." ...oh well, funny times!...But what I told him was the TRUTH.......and there are other times.....hehehe...
. See thing that make me unhappy is all the verbally abuse. For expel I could be sit reading a book or on the computer ect. and he will just come in and said the most mean hurtful things. Sometime I just leave the room he follows me you know I can't eat around him im so busy I only get to eat one to two things a day like a banana and a sandwich that it. But if he see it your sooo FAT or why are you eating and throwing at me so I can?t eat. Now I have to get so much iron a day see I need a high level or I get light headed thing start spinning cant walk strait and finally pass out . Why does he have to made my life a living hell 